Ep. 21 Failing at Perfect

Recovering from Perfectionism

EPISODE 21 / 04.22.2025

Struggling to be the perfect parent, partner, or person? In this honest and hilarious episode, we talk about why perfection is overrated, failure is essential, and showing up as your real self is the only goal that matters.

Show Notes

Ever feel like you’re failing at being perfect? GOOD. That means you’re doing it right. In this episode, we unpack the myth of perfectionism, explore how the fear of failure holds us back, and share how letting go of unrealistic expectations can set you free. Embracing imperfection and living authentically might just be the real secret to happiness.

Todd and Bettijo are tackling the soul-crushing pursuit of perfection—and reminding you that falling short isn’t just inevitable… it’s kind of wonderful.

From the pressure to be the “perfect parent” to the societal lies that have us all chasing some imaginary gold star, they’re peeling back the filters and laughing through the mess. You’ll hear personal stories, parenting confessions, and raw reflections on letting go of guilt, embracing your limits, and getting real about what success actually looks like.

Highlights

• Why perfection is not the goal—but authenticity might be.
• Bettijo’s love-hate relationship with the idea of the “perfect mom.”
• The impossible pressure of trying to be “everything, everywhere, all at once” (and why Bettijo relates a little too hard to that movie).
• Why Todd thinks women have it especially hard when it comes to expectations—and how men often don’t even realize the pressure women are under.
• The ridiculousness of comparing your real life to someone’s highlight reel.
• How Todd’s past taught him that failure isn’t final—and sometimes, it’s the best teacher.
• How failure can actually be a sign you’re doing something right.
• The one question to ask when you feel like you’re falling short.
• A powerful reminder that imperfections don’t make you a failure—they make you human.

LISTEN to learn

• Why chasing perfection is exhausting and pointless.
• A healthier mindset for measuring success.
• How to laugh at your flaws instead of hiding them.
• The truth about what really matters in parenting and life.

So go ahead and exhale. You don’t have to have it all together—just hit play and join two folks who are right there with you…  figuring it out as they go.